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An Article on the Internet:

You could have done better, Dad

S’porean parents don’t understand their kids: Survey

Wednesday • June, 2005

Parents, who fix their child with a disapproving gaze when the teenager brings an indifferent report card home, suddenly find themselves being graded — by their children.

In a Reader’s Digest survey, 3,212 teenagers aged between 14 and 18 from eight Asian lands, including Singapore, were asked to rate their parents.

Singapore came in sixth — beating only Hong Kong and Taiwan — in this ranking exercise. Parents from Thailand, Indonesia and Malaysia came out tops.

When it came to listening to their teens and understanding them, Singaporean parents were at the very bottom of the heap.

Also, according to the 402 teens surveyed here, less than half their parents are able to talk things through without losing their temper.

They also have a tendency to preach and lecture. And, when it comes to talking about sex, they are third from the bottom.

Reflecting a trend common through Asia, mothers were perceived to be doing a better job than fathers.

The survey also showed that if teenagers had their way, most would send their parents for makeovers. Singaporean parents got Cs for their fashion sense.

Mothers, at least, have “a clue about fashion” according to the teenagers. They are also better at explaining sex and also more likely to know what their children’s best friends’ names are.

Said Mr Jim Plouffe, editor-in-chief for Reader’s Digest (Asia edition): “Kids just want to spend more time with their parents, to sit down and have meaningful talks over a meal and maybe cook with them.”

As for the fathers’ perceived aloofness, Dr Ng Guat Tin, a National University of Singapore professor who specialises in family well-being, said: “Gender literature generally points to fathers’ lack of skills in interacting with children. Ideally, the bond should be developed from infancy as adolescence is a trying time.”

Mdm Jean Lum, 50, said her 15-year-old son turns to her, rather than her husband, for a listening ear as they are very close.

She has spoken to him about sexual issues and makes it a point to talk to her son for half-an-hour every day, while her husband provides the “financial support”.

Still, three-quarters of the Singapore teenagers interviewed said they liked their parents, but hoped that they would push less and spend more time with their children, Mr Plouffe said.

So why did parents from Hong Kong, Taiwan and Singapore fare so badly?

According to Mr Plouffe, “it comes down to the fact that these are predominantly Chinese societies. I believe it’s because the Chinese parents are parenting in the same way as their parents were when the Chinese kids are getting different messages through the media”.


Let’s THINK ABOUT IT:

Why we need to study so hard? Is it true, in this 21st century , students need to memorise hard, practice hard, read hard, work hard and study hard for exam? Yes, in my opinion but with the right strategies, methods and pedagogy.

Why when we got our university degree, do we get the idea job that we really want?

Why we need self-discipline to motivate and study for our future career?

How can we as a student learn the smartest and best methods from teacher, trainer and tutor?

How come stress is good at times for us to manage our lifestyle?